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My Mental Problems Do Not Define Me.

My Mental Problems Do Not Define Me

This is probably going to be one of the most personal pieces I ever write on this website. It is something that needs to be said and understood by everybody.

We are all human. Humans are imperfect; we all have flaws. Now that you know you’re not perfect, it’s time to explain why other people may not be perfect. Because on the inside, everybody is fighting a different battle with themselves. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re perfect – your battle is trying to live up to that standard of perfection that you think you may be. For others, it’s a much more difficult battle with illnesses such as anxiety and depression.

My Mental Problems Do Not Define Me.

Admitting you have a problem is the first step to getting better. I am admitting to you: I have generalized anxiety and depression. I’m a wreck – there are days where I’ll be on the fast track to getting better and I’ll be positive and upbeat. There are days where all I want to do is stay in bed and sleep all day. There are days where I’ll start off super good and I’ll be completely okay – and all of a sudden, my brain turns my day around and I’m crying for no reason in bed. It’s a literal rollercoaster of emotions.

Sure, I’m getting help. I talk to a campus therapist, I have friends who support me and a family who supports me. But why is it so hard to admit to these problems?

Because everyone almost immediately starts to define you by your mentality.

Conversations of “Oh, she never speaks up in class because she has generalized anxiety.” and “She looks so sad all the time because of her depression.” start to come up and it’s almost like people are actually ashamed to speak to you because of these problems. They don’t want to be seen around somebody like me.

And it hurts. I’ve lost friends from freshman year due to feeling like this and even though I do a really good job at suppressing the way I feel and acting nice on the outside my mind swarms with thoughts like “Why did they just stop talking to me? What did I do? Is it because i’m unstable? I was nothing but nice to them. Do they not like me – did they never like me?” These thoughts come into my head every single class I have with them and every single time I see them. It’s one of my battles that I have going on inside.

But my problems do not define who I am. Sure, they are a large part of me that anybody who wants to get to know me needs to know about. But my mental problems do not define who I am.

Who I am is a superhero movie lover.

Who I am is a mad Supernatural addict.

Who I am is a daydreaming fan fiction writer.

Who I am is also an anxious and depressive person.

Mental problems are not what should make you define a person and form your opinion of them on. Any person with a mental problem like anxiety and depression is so much more than that, they are just fighting a different battle that you couldn’t even begin to understand.

So when you meet a person with a mental problem, take the time to sit and ask them about what they’re going through. Take the time to understand what they’re going through, because the more effort that you put in to understanding makes a world of a difference in their fight. It motivates them to get through it, and your support, encouragement, and understanding is what makes the fight just a slight bit easier to get through.

2 Comment

  1. I have been dealing with GAD and panic for YEARS. I totally understand what you’re saying here. I have to work every single day to get through the things that ramp up my anxiety. It’s s constant battle and it’s so difficult to tell people because they simply don’t understand. I have been trying to be more honest in recent years because I want to be a part of normalizing the problem and stop people from marginalizing and defining those of us with mental illness. It’s just as real as any other condition and you’re right–it does not define us. I am a writer. I am a homeschooling mom. I am a lot of great things. I also happen to struggle with anxiety and panic. It’s not ME.

  2. Depression and Anxiety, where do I begin. I’ve been battling both for most of my life. It’s hard to explain to people that have never been trogh it. But your not alone and it is nothing to be ashamed of, and you’re right it does not define you.

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